Forgive Is Essential

Forgive is essential,

There is a tendency in all of us to hold ourselves,

More accountable than we do others,

Perhaps you have been one who can justify forgiving others,

Even for a heinous offense,

Yet you find no justification for forgiving yourself,

For an equal or lesser offense,

Perhaps you believe that forgiving yourself,

Is not even a consideration,

Because you think you must hold yourself,

In a state of constant remembrance,

Lest you forget,

Perhaps you believe there is a price,

Some form of life long penance that you must pay.

Today, Tommorow & Forever

You may not have ever seen me,

but you know that I am here.

You can feel me in your heart,

as you enter each new day.

I will always be there for you,

I am your friend.

Someone to share the good times,

as well as the bad.

I make no judgments by what you say,

I just listen with my heart.

Hope to be of help in anyway I can,

I will be there for you.

Today, tomorrow and forever,

always please remember.

I am your friend.

Who Am I?

My life is different but good,

I didn't think it ever would.

I had a life before where,

I was locked away.

I seem to miss each passing day,

where everyday was always not the same.

I only have my self to blame,

I should have made a stand years ago.

Then I wouldn't have felt so low,

so here I am with my mother and friends.

All the good times it sends,

I may have suffered for all those years.

But now I have to stand up to my fears,

I have all the love here I ever need.

All that has grown a new seed,

to make the best of my life.

To take away the trouble and strife,

to wake up each day to do something new.

To be myself again and always be true.

I Found A Friend

I found a friend,

who knew everything I felt.

She knew my every weakness,

and the problems I've been dealt.

She understood my wonders,

and listened to my dreams.

She listened to how,

I felt about life and love.

And knew what it all means,

not once did she interrupt me.

Or tell me I was wrong,

they understood what I was going through.

And promised she'd stay long,

I reached out to this friend.

To show her that i care,

to pull her close and let her know.

How much I need her there,

I went to hold her hand.

To pull her a bit nearer,

and realized that this perfect friend.

Forgiving Others

Forgiving others may seem to be a choice,

and in one sense it is a choice.

Forgiving others releases us from anger,

and allows us to receive the healing we need.

Forgiving others spares us from the consequences,

of living out of an unforgiving heart.

Forgiving others does not carry with it,

a single decision that we need to ponder.

Forgiving others often takes time.

Forgiving others often starts as a decision,

of surrender an act of our will.

We simply need to make the choice,

to be open to forgiveness and reconciliation.

Remember, forgiveness does not,

justify the deed or the person.

It does not provide God's forgiveness for their actions,

because only God can do that.

While nothing can undo the past,

we can do something about the condition,

of our own present and future.

Forgiving others makes a way for our own healing to begin.

Search For Answers

I can't give solutions to all of life's problems,

doubts, or fears,

but I can listen to you.

And together we will search for answers,

I can't change your past,

with all it's heartache and pain.

Nor the future with its untold stories,

but I can be there now,

when you need me to care.

I can't keep your feet from stumbling,

I can only offer my hand,

that you may grasp it and not fall.

Your joys, triumphs, successes,

and happiness are not mine,

yet I can share in your laughter.

Your decisions in life are,

not mine to make and nor to judge,

I can only support you, encourage you.

And help you when you ask,

I can't prevent you from,

falling away from friendship.

From your values and from me,

I can only pray for you,

talk to you and wait for you.

I can't give you boundaries which,

I have determined for you,

but I can give you the room to change.

Room to grow and room to be yourself,

I can't keep your heart from breaking and hurting,

but I can cry with you and help you pick up.

The pieces and put them back in place,

I can't tell you who you are,

I can only love you and be your friend.

The Nature of Friendship

It takes more than caring,

To be a real friend,

The nature of friendship,

Requires a blend Of warmest compassion,

And love deep and true,

To reach and to comfort,

The way that you do,

Because I can see,

That your kind of friendship,

Is priceless to me.

The Moments

You are my friend and that is true,

but the gift was given from me to you.

We went thru moments,

that were good and bad.

Even moments that were happy and sad,
you suported me when i was in tears.

We stuck together when we were in fear,

its really sad that it had to be this way.

But it has reached its very last day,

miles away cant keep us apart.

Cause you'll always be in my heart.

Relationship, Trust & Accountability

True friendship involves relationship. Those mutual attributes we mentioned above become the foundation in which recognition transpires into relationship. Many people say, "Oh, she's a good friend of mine," yet they never take time to spend time with that good friend.

Friendship takes time, time to get to know each other, time to build shared memories, time to invest in each other's growth. Trust is essential to true friendship. We all need someone with whom we can share our lives, thoughts, feelings, and frustrations.

We need to be able to share our deepest secrets with someone, without worrying that those secrets will end up on the Internet the next day. Failing to be trustworthy with those intimate secrets can destroy a friendship in a hurry.

Faithfulness and loyalty are key to true friendship. Without them, we often feel betrayed, left out and lonely. In true friendship, there is no backbiting, no negative thoughts, no turning away. True friendship requires certain accountability factors.

Real friends encourage one another and forgive one another where there has been an offense. Genuine friendship supports during times of struggle. Friends are dependable. In true friendship, unconditional love develops. We love our friends no matter what and we always want the best for our friends.

The Philosophy of Friendship

Signs include a mutual desire for companionship,

and perhaps a common bond of some kind.

Beyond that, genuine friendship involves,

a shared sense of caring and concern.

A desire to see one another grow and develop,

a hope for each other to succeed in all aspects of life.

True friendship involves action,

doing something for someone else.

While expecting nothing in return,

sharing thoughts and feelings without.

Fear of judgment or negative criticism.

Tribute To My Father

This was my first speech for my late Father.

My Father served the government for almost 20 years and Pantai Medivest Sdn Bhd for almost 10 years. He was everyone’s favorite friend & neighbour. Everybody calls him,
"Abang Tapah or Pak Yah"

My Father died, July 30, 2007. I am not very accustomed in making speeches & not very vocal about my emotions. But this time, I really want to express my feelings and talk about my Father.

If there are far more greater words to describe how my Father was then let me use it. But there’s really no need for words, because my Father’s life spoke loud and clear enough. What tribute can you pay a man whose whole life was a tribute. I don’t think there was anyone who knew him that didn’t like him. He was a good man, I was lucky to have him as my father.

When I was a kid, I used to see him wearing his uniform while carrying me in his arm… fetching me from school, because it is flooded and it made me feel very proud.

Another vivid memory of him was, when I went through the stage of being failed an exam, I was crying miserably. I stayed in my room all day. He came up to me, sat beside my bed and gave me comfort and advised me to let go & move on.

Not that my Father was perfect, But in my life, I never felt for a moment that he wasn’t there for me. He always supports me with my plans, Unfortunately he will not be physically present , to see my dreams being fulfilled.

I wouldn’t be able to see his face light up & would pat me on my head and say, "very good son, but don’t forget to thank the Allah for all His blessings". My father always made me strong to accept trials & sufferings in my life…
But his sudden loss made me realize that I am vulnerable, for this is the most painful & saddest thing that ever happened to me. But I know that my Father wouldn’t want me to see grieving...

I am going to miss him…

I love you "Abah", I will miss you, But will never forget who you are & will always talk about you and tell your grand children about their grandpa who always tried to give somethings in his life.

And to you "Abah"…

As a Father… Mission Accomplished

As a Golfer ... Hole In One

As a Retired Person
(Government and Pantai Medivest Sdn Bhd)

… Now go and be with Allah and Be in peace…

I Love you "Abah"… Al- Fatihah

How will smoking kill you?

For roughly half of adult smokers it isn't a question of if smoking will kill them but how. Ask any smoker what smoking’s greatest killer is and they’ll likely tell you it’s lung cancer. They’re wrong. The correct response would have been circulatory or cardiovascular disease.

A smoker’s incorrect response to this basic question is understandable. Early on most sensed smoking’s impact upon their lungs. Even as teens they knew it was depriving them of a degree of endurance, stamina and normal lung function.

They could hear the panting while trying to keep pace with other teens. Eventually the sounds of a morning cough or wheeze arrive. But smoking induced circulatory disease is a silent killer.

Smokers need to imagine damage to normal blood flow being substantially worse than any damage they sense happening within their lungs. According to the Ministry Of Health Malaysia, lung cancer is responsible for 28% of smoking related deaths while 43% are attributable to cardiovascular disease - primarily heart disease and strokes.

It's easy to appreciate that the 43 cancer causing chemicals in each and every puff are slowly building an internal time bomb. What few comprehend is that before the bomb has time to go off that it’s far more likely that smoking will cause some portion of their body’s blood piping to completely clog, with downstream oxygen deprived tissues suffocating and dying.

But how?
Nicotine’s ability to dock at millions of acetylcholine receptor sites grant it control over the flow of a host of neurochemicals including those associated with preparing the body for fight or flight, our built-in stress response.

Imagine encountering a sabertooth tiger and having to either flee or fight in order to survive. The stresses would cause these amazing bodies to release a host of chemicals and hormones. They’d trigger an increase in our rate of breathing so that our body could immediately begin taking in more oxygen.

Our heart rate would climb so that a greater volume of oxygen rich blood could be pumped from our lungs to our muscles and brain. Our blood pressure would increase. Extremity and skin surface blood vessels would constrict so as to diminish the risk of bleeding to death if cut while fighting or fleeing the tiger. Our fingers and toes would grow noticeably colder.

Our hearing would perk and our pupils would dilate. Our body would be force-fed an instant supply of energy as the liver released glucose elevating blood sugars, and stored fats were pumped into our bloodstream fats intended to be burned while fighting or fleeing the sabertooth tiger.

Bodily functions not needed during fight or flight would be shut down in order to redirect blood flow to muscle tissues. Nonessential functions such as digestion would stop. The liver would suspend bad cholesterol clean-up, while stored cholesterol would be released helping thicken our blood and aid in clotting if wounded during fight or flight.

That’s how the body’s defenses were designed to respond. But instead of a sabertooth tiger imagine the natural insecticide and teratogen nicotine being able to trigger the body’s fight or flight responses. Visualize it happening puff after puff, cigarette after cigarette, pack after pack, year after year.

Picture nicotine’s control over fight or flight occurring at the exact same time as the smoker is inhaling large quantities of highly toxic carbon monoxide. Inside our lungs carbon monoxide binds to hemoglobin (the oxygen carrying portion of red blood cells) with an affinity 200-250 times greater than that of oxygen.

Not only does an arriving carbon monoxide molecule have a 200 times greater chance than an oxygen molecule of entering the bloodstream, two to four hours after inhaling a large puff of carbon monoxide half is still circulating.

It not only robs the body of life-giving oxygen but its toxic properties act as a Brillo pad in grinding away the smooth delicate endothelium lining of blood vessel walls. Like eggs that begin sticking to a worn Teflon frying pan, extra fight or flight fats begin sticking, accumulating, building and hardening.

Picture the inside of once smooth coronary arteries whose job it was to feed our heart muscle oxygen instead gradually becoming narrower and narrower as they slowly fill with fight or flight fats and cholesterols. Picture the same process occurring in blood pathways to the brain.

Eventually it happens. Complete blockage occurs. All downstream tissues serviced with oxygen by the blood vessel immediately begin to suffocate and die. By far the most common site of smoker circulatory
tissue death is the heart muscle (a heart attack) followed by the brain (a stroke).

The smoker’s senseless self destruction need not continue. Nicotine is simply a chemical with an I.Q. of zero. Knowledge truly is power. The smoker’s greatest weapon is and always has been their vastly superior intelligence but only if put to work.

Who Is A True Friend?

We all have friends. A lot gets talked about friendships. Everyone wants a true friend, and many of us believe that we have a friend who can be called a true friend. What kind of relations do friends share? When can we call a friend a true friend, and when can our friends take us as their true friend. After a romantic relationship, friendships are the most important relationships we can have.

Though all of us have family and distant family, most of us rely on friends for advice, comfort and inspiration. How do we define a relation that can be called as one of true friendship? The very first sign of a very good friend, not necessarily a true friend is that we are not worried about courtesies. You will call your friend at any hour and talk without any thought of time in your mind. Similarly, whenever you need support, you will call a very good friend and ask him/her to help you out.

They expect the same from you. Another important trait of such relations is that we are not much worried about exposing ourselves. We speak about everything in our mind without worrying about what our friends will think. We are sure that they will take our talk in the spirit it was made.

We are unguarded and open with friends in our talk.A true friend is a little more than a very good friend. A true friend will support you even if it hurts his/her own interest. A true friend will understand your motives and needs and will be with you without any analysis or criticism.

A true friend will come forward to help without any request and be with us in need without showing it or expecting anything in return. With a true friend, you can be sure that you will get help to the extent possible by him/her. Nothing will remain unturned. A mother is a true friend of her children.

If we share such relations with an adult we can say that we are true friends. A true friend makes no excuses of having work or appointments or anything but will be with you whenever you need him/her. In your hour of desperation, a true friend will support you even if the whole world opposes you. A true friend is not an opportunist. A true friend means to have someone who is like mother, as I said earlier.

Instead of having hundreds of good friends, if you have a true friend, treat yourself lucky. If you can also become a true friend of someone, you will be blessed, because it is much easier for all of us to expect but very difficult to give. Be a true friend yourself first.

True Friend

True Friend when I think of you,

I think of all that we've been through.

All the times we argue and fight,

I know deep inside that it isn't right.

I then feel bad and a lot of pain,

it feels like I've fallen from the sky like the rain.

I love you dear friend with all of my heart,

but now that you're gone I've fallen apart.

I'm getting better as the days go by,

I wish sometimes this was all a big lie.

I pray to you every night,

It's like you're my fire, a burning light.

My dear friend, I miss you a lot,

I still wonder why you were put in that spot.

I know you're in a place much better than here,

watching and helping me with all of my fear.

Our friendship my dear friend,

we will have to the end.

Friends til the end is what we will be,

someday we'll be together.

Together you and me.

A Friend

A friend is like a flower,
a rose to be exact.

Or maybe like a brand new gate,

that never comes unlatched.

A friend is like an ow,l

both beautiful and wise.

Or perhaps a friend is like a ghost.

Whose spirit never dies,

a friend is like a heart that.

Goes strong until the end,

Where would we be in this world.

If we didn't have a friend.