Mohd Yazri Bin Yahaya

A Day Lived is Not Coming Back

2010-02-05T00:45:00.001+08:00

Practicing relaxation techniques can help calm our days when they get too stressful. It's easy to miss out on enjoying a day in our life if our minds are filled with worrisome thoughts and our bodies are tense with stress. A day lived is not coming back and we should not lose it in this way.

For starters, eliminate some things. Avoid running around frantically trying to do too many things. Slow down and move with an easy manner. If you cannot avoid problems and busy days, get in the habit of pausing to breathe slowly and deeply. Try to continue with easy breathing as you continue on with your tasks.When tightening up, say at your desk, relax all your muscles.

Let them go limp and loose like a soft towel. Don't try, just let it all go. Consciously let the muscles relax every time you feel them tighten, which might be all day long to start with. It is almost impossible to feel stressed if your muscles are relaxed. If you can get a short break create a detailed peaceful retreat in your imagination and go there to calm your feelings. Picture it in vivid detail. Perhaps a comfortable room with soft music, a quiet place in the woods, a placid lake, a beautiful garden with flowers, trees, birds.

Perhaps such a place already exists. While you are there, let go of everything except where you are.Create a personal selection of calming words like serene, tranquil, peaceful and repeat them to yourself as you move through your day.After work perhaps you can have a relaxing pastime such as walking or listening to music. There is however, a true music of nature, the song of the birds, the whisper of leaves, the ripple of waters upon a sandy shore, the wail of wind or sea.

Fear to Faith

2010-01-04T00:52:00.000+08:00

Your enemy of fear prowls around like a roaring lion looking for someone to devour. Resist fear, standing firm in the faith, because you know that your brothers throughout the world are undergoing the same kind of sufferings. When I stood, God stood with me. When I grounded myself in God's Word, I became immovable and determined through God. Over the years, I have continued to become established, securely grounded, and strengthened. I have determined to stay His course, to become all He created and designed me to be.

Nothing in all my reading of psychology helped me overcome fear. My readings had not given me anything I could use to test what was truly rational versus what was irrational what truth versus what was a lie was. Since my early beliefs were grounded and rooted in religious doctrines, I turned to the Al Quran for answers. I made a decision to hold every belief to be false or corrupted until I could validate it in God's Word.

I humbled myself and decided that in order to overcome fear, I needed God's help. Humble yourselves, therefore, under God's mighty hand, that he may lift you up in due time. I made the decision that I would cast all my anxieties, all my worries, all my concerns, once and for all on Him and trust Him to teach me what I needed to know to change fear into faith. Cast all your anxiety on him because he cares for you. I began to overcome fear when I took a stand against the fear, declaring my fear to be the liar while choosing to believe God, accepting everything He said as truth, be self-controlled and alert.

I encourage you to seek God's truth, challenge every fear based thought to find out what is really true and what is a lie. I encourage you to make the Al Quran your standard of truth and trust God to help you separate truth from lies. Everything you need to overcome fear is available to you through God and can be found by those who seek Him, who learns to put on His character as their own, and who abides in His Word.

General Signs & Symtoms

2009-12-20T08:39:00.000+08:00

General signs and symptoms of depression include Loss of interest or pleasure in normal activities, Changes in sleep patterns, Changes in appetite patterns, A deeply sad or depressed mood, Difficulties concentrating, Changes in activity level, Guilty feelings or feelings of worthlessness, Energy loss, Thoughts of suicideDealing with depression starts by understanding its patterns and symptoms. Depression is described as an abnormal emotional state characterized by feelings of sadness, despair, and discouragement.

The reality is that this is a serious problem and in a few cases, dealing with depression requires treatment. Do not ignore the classic symptoms. It is a problem that can be treated and there are many options. Even if you don't have the classic symptoms, but have lasting feelings of sadness, discouragement, or worthlessness for several consecutive days, see your doctor for help. However, do not ignore that there may be other alternatives and causes of your depression.

Happiness Always

2009-12-12T00:37:00.004+08:00

Dedicated To:
Siti Nor Darlina Binti Derofar
&
Mohd Aswaddi Bin Salleh

Saturday, December 12, 2009
Puchong, Selangor Darul Ehsan, Malaysia.

Wishing you all the health and happiness in this world on your wedding. Wishing you the best of life today and in the days to come. Heart filled wishes on your wedding, hoping the best for you two today and forever. You two are one of the best couples I have ever seen, may God grant you a happy married life.

May you love and hold each other in the worst of times with trust, faith and belief. Hoping the best for you on your auspicious wedding. I pray and wish happiness for both of you on your wedding day. Finally, I wish you guys all the happiness in this world. To keep your marriage brimming with love in the wedding cup, whenever you're wrong please admit it but whenever you're right please shut up

Over the blog:
I’m sorry my dear friend, I couldn't be there on your wedding day, but I really feel so happy for you. Here I wishing you, all the best of health, happiness and prosperity for your married.

"Happy Married Life"

A Special Aidiladha Wish

2009-11-27T00:42:00.006+08:00

A special Aidiladha wish for a wonderful person.

May u get success in all deeds.

May u get happiness in whatever u do.

May Allah blessings be always with u.

To the God Almighty:
Thank You,
For giving me the opportunity to celebrate Aidiladha with,
my Mom, Along, Adik, Jaja & Mia.
For giving me strength to pull through during our darkest hours,
for Your blessings to my families.

To my Mom:
Thank you for your blessings, your unconditional love,

your understanding and forgiveness, your being there just for me.
I love you.

Happy Hari Raya Aidiladha

2009-11-27T00:08:00.003+08:00

Dedicated To:

My Family (Mom, Along, Adik, Jaja & Mia)

All My Friends & Blog Visitors.

Aidiladha is a celebration observed throughout the Muslim world. It is the biggest and most meaningful celebration in Islam other than Aidilfitri. I wish all Muslims in Malaysia a Happy Hari Raya Aidiladha, wherever you may be. Let us celebrate this occasion together with our friends of all races in the good spirit. This is the recipe for a united ummah in the Malaysia.

My Birthday Cake

2009-11-15T23:50:00.004+08:00

Dedicated To:

Nani Rahayu Binti Mohd Azlan

Langkawi, Kedah Darul Aman

Malaysia.

I am thankful for everything I have experienced in this life of mine for in all I have found. I am thankful for all the tears I have cried for, they have taught me to appreciate laughter. You have given me the ability to see the joy that comes after.

Perhaps unconsciously I had this fear that bringing attention to the good things in my life might incur bad luck. So to play it safe, I went along without a grateful heart. You might be laughing now as you read this, and I thought that's rather silly of me too. But that's the belief I once held onto.

Not so long ago, I didn't know that I can express thanks for the blessings and good things in my life. I just took things for granted. Or worse, I was worried that if I was to acknowledge the blessings that I've received, somehow something "bad" would happen and take away those blessings.

Now, I'm quick to express thanks whenever a good thing comes into my life. Somehow, there's always something to be thankful about!I have this simple statement that I make often,

"Thank you God for all the blessings and abundance in my life."

Happiness Is Like A Butterfly

2009-10-07T18:29:00.009+08:00

If you not happy, why aren't you? Chances are it is because you want something which you do not have, objects or conditions. This is probably not a good enough reason and a review of your situation and perceptions may be in order.You may have seen video of children in very poor countries laughing and playing, unconcerned that they should have more to be happy about.

They are happy because they are playing, because they have their friends and family, and some food to eat that day. Everyone has the right to be happy, and if they can be in their situation, shouldn't you? Happiness consists more in small conveniences of pleasures that occur every day, than in great pieces of good fortune that happen but seldom to a man in the course of his life. Happiness is inside us, in our minds, in our thinking.

It is not external material things or experiences, but the enjoyment of our thoughts and feelings. This is good because our thoughts, and therefore our happiness, are up to us.Start by reviewing the things that you have to be happy about and dwell on these. Don't overlook the little or basic things that you take for granted. Make a habit of substituting unhappy thoughts with happy thoughts. Whenever an unfavorable picture enters your mind, eject it and replace it with a pleasant one. We all have some nice experiences to recollect and there are usually little pleasures around us most of the time.

You can even imagine enjoyable experiences, and it will have a similar positive effect. Happiness is like a butterfly which, when pursued, is always beyond our grasp, but, if you will sit down quietly, may alight upon you. Establish good principles and conduct yourself according to these principles. Love, or at least be tolerant of, your fellow humans. Don't strive too hard for that which, in the end, will not make you happier.

What a Beautiful Life Means

2009-10-05T21:58:00.014+08:00

Love has many meanings,

from something that gives a little pleasure,

to someone like me would die for.

It can describe an intense feeling of affection,

an emotion or an emotional state.

In ordinary use, it usually refers to interpersonal love.

Probably due to its large psychological relevance,

love is one of the most common themes in poetry.
I'm giving my entire life to you,

all of my mind, body, and soul.

Handing over to you my sweetheart,

in hopes, you'll be the one to keep me whole.

I'm delicately handing my heart to you,

in your caressing hands to forever keep.

I'm giving you the chance of destroying me,

and I know I'm in your love too deep.
Depending on your gentle and sweet love.

To get me through the tragic world each day.

I'm praying to God you'll always be here by my side,

and that's where you'll always be to stay.

Putting you over everyone else including myself,

you automatically go to the front of my line.

Which is why I'm delicately handing you my heart,

in hopes, you'll always and eternally, completely be mine, InsyaAllah.

Happy Aidilfitri

2009-09-19T21:47:00.006+08:00

Dedicated To:
My Family (Mom, Along, Adik, Jaja & Mia)
All My Friends & Blog Visitors

This morning with my heart full of indescribable joy and fulfilment. Heard the Syawal song played over my neighbour's radio and my heart filled with overwhelming joy. The trying month of Ramadhan has passed us and here we all will celebrate Hari Raya Aidilfitri.

To the God Almighty:

Thank You,

For giving me the opportunity to celebrate with,

my Mom, Along, Adik, Jaja & Mia.

For giving me strength to pull through during our darkest hours,

For Your blessings to my families.

To my Mom:

Thank you for your blessings,

Your unconditional love,

Your understanding and forgiveness,

Your being there just for me.

I love you.

Suffer From Anger & Grief

2009-09-04T23:35:00.002+08:00

We cannot always reason with those that are bitter towards us and sometimes we may need to accept that it exists. To counteract this with retaliation is something that needs careful consideration. Consider how much more you often suffer from your anger and grief, than from those very things for which you are angry and grieved.

Most of us experience anger at one time or another. Others may get angry with us, justifiably or not. We may become angry at others, sometimes with very good reason, sometimes not. One thing is for sure, it is not a pleasant experience.

Perhaps we are guilty of hostility more than we would like to be. Greater interaction with people should reduce these feelings. Less anger should result in more confidence and less stress.

Is a discussion possible and is it worthwhile? A few words and an exchange point of view might result in one or both sides having a change in attitude. Try to see another point of view no matter how unreasonable it appears.

Consider how you are feeling. It is common, perhaps good advice, to let anger be expressed, to not hold it inside. My personal experience is that sometimes I have regretted this because I was wrong or over reacted. Sometimes the anger still lingered. Avoiding anger in the first place, through conciliation or acceptance, can result in feeling better all around.

Finally, hatred is a prolonged anger towards a fellow human. There are various forms of hatred, motivated in different ways, and mostly without cause. Prejudice, jealousy, gossip, bullying are hard to deal with. This is where friends can be a great help in trying to understand these harmful actions. They can offer comfort and foresight. Please be a friend and whatever is begin in anger, will be ends in shame.

The Rule of Friendship

2009-08-26T21:04:00.000+08:00

Interacting amiably with family and friends is a super stress reducer. Instead of the mind working overtime on worries and problems, it is occupied with thoughts of other things and other people. There is less mental capacity left for anxieties and self doubt. Friendship improves happiness and abates misery by the doubling of our joy and the dividing of our grief.

Good friendship is healthy but it isn't easy for everyone. Getting people to like you is the starting point, and that should be fairly easy to do. People have a basic need to be liked themselves. Show interest, appreciation, and kindness. Smile. Praise given out sincerely is a great act of friendship. Be a good listener and try to see the good, not the bad qualities in people. These actions will usually be returned to you, sooner or later. The only way to have a friend is to be one. A friend is a person with whom I may be sincere. Before him I may think aloud.

As a friend, try to let an unfavorable incident or remark fly right over the top of your head. We all blurt out something stupid or do something regrettable at times, and it's so nice when the other acts as if it never happened. This is a dear friend. The rule of friendship means there should be mutual sympathy between them, each supplying what the other lacks and trying to benefit the other, always using friendly and sincere words.

Happy Ramadan Al-Mubarak

2009-08-22T06:13:00.011+08:00

Dedicated To:

My Family (Mom, Along, Adik, Jaja & Mia)

All My Friends & Blog Visitors

The holy Month of Ramadan has arrived.Muslim faithful throughout the world are currently observing the holy month of Ramadan. Observant Muslims participate in fasting, one of the five pillars of their faith, this entire Lunar month .

Eating, drinking, smoking and sexual activity is prohibited from dawn until sunset, when the fast is broken with the evening meal. Local customs define varying traditions, including differing types of food used to break the daily fast. The fasting is meant to teach a person patience, humility and sacrifice, to set aside time to ask forgiveness, practice self-restraint and pray for guidance in the future.

I would like to give All Muslim community my sincerest best wishes for the Holy Month of Ramadan. Ramadan marks an important time in the Islamic calendar. Throughout this Holy Month, the universal element of Islam is evident as Muslims across the World take stock of their lives and their faith.

"Wish You Happy Ramadan Al-Mubarak"

Set Our Thoughts Properly

2009-08-20T17:37:00.007+08:00

Life is thought, and when we cease to think, we are not living. How we think, is the kind of life we live. Since we are able to control our thoughts, we can determine the course of our life and the way we feel during our time here.We are what we think.It is very important to establish good thinking guidelines and follow them. Placing thoughts of peace and happiness in our minds will help to make our lives peaceful and happy.

If we do not set our thoughts properly, we travel through life by way of places where we will wish we had not gone. It is the mind that make us being good, happy, rich and poor. Our daily life includes thoughts associated with responsibilities concerning work, other people and handling problems. If possible, try not to think of too many different things during your day and don't move or think too quickly.

Start your morning with a plan to come through to bedtime relaxed, contented and ready for a restful night's sleep.Your own mind is a sacred enclosure into which nothing harmful can enter except by your permission. Reflect about things that can improve your feelings, learning, completing tasks, duties, pleasant, relaxing experiences and kind words.

Finally, think about your happiness, goals, life pleasures, your principles and your conduct. Think about enjoying the moment.

Ramadan Wishes to Noorsha...

2009-08-20T12:42:00.011+08:00

Ramadan eCard From : Noor Shafiah Mohamad Adam

To : Her Blogger Friends (Including me, Mohd Yazri Bin Yahaya)

Ramadan Wishes to Noorsha :

Ramadan is the holy month of fasting from morning until sunset.

A beautiful and heartfelt wish for a dear friend.

May Allah's Rahmat Shine On You.

Wish you and your hubby the blessings of Allah on Ramadan.

It is also the occasion to get together with your loved ones,

and hopefully both of you Happily Ever After.

Changing Our Thoughts

2009-08-11T17:21:00.022+08:00

All of us face some situations in our life that cannot be changed and that make us feel helpless and hopeless. Perhaps it is less serious than that but we are stressed and worried.

It might be an event that has happened, happening or will happen.

It should provide some immediate comfort to consider that these situations do not directly cause these awful feelings but it is what we think of these situations. Changing our thoughts can have an enormous effect on how we are feeling. This has been stated by many great minds over very many years.

By reviewing some of the good things in our life past and present we can feel good even in what appears to be a very disturbing situation. As long as there is nothing we can do to fix a problem dwelling on the negative aspects of it will only make us feel worse and will do absolutely no good.

Since it all depends on what is in our thoughts we can control this. So start listing the things in your life that make or have made you happy. Stuff your mind with other things that make you smile or laugh. Keep it up so as not to let the negative creep back in.

Something good about babies. They fall and get up and try again and again and then they walk.

They are usually always ready to laugh at the littlest things. They are constantly interested in new things to learn about and normally sleep well. If they brood about a bad experience it's not for long.

Finally, things turn out best forthe people who make the best out of the way things turn out.

Appreciation of Loved Ones

2009-07-31T21:06:00.025+08:00

Everyone has own unique relationship with their father. My unique and long lasting relationship with my late father is beyond his passing. He impacts me profoundly and his influences are likely passing to next generations in my life as well.

This writing is not to boast the greatness of my late father but simply a commemorating him as an individual who I admired and am willing to share with the readers after two years of his passing.

His legacy and wisdom is not limited to one recipient. Some words in this writing were composed when I spend the last months of his life journey with him at the Malacca GH Hospital. These writings genuinely reflect my inner feelings and pains of losing him a loved one, once a while in life.

I lost someone or something dear to me sometimes they are replaceable but sometimes they are not. For those irreplaceable losses sadness is not the solution we need to transform those pains and losses to something even more meaningful to individuals or to others.

He made many good examples for his children and others. Those who followed benefited in work, relationship, life, I believe. His expectations lay on what he taught us and he practiced them in his life as well words and actions are coherent in his case.

"I Love You Abah". Al-Fatihah.

It's Never Too Late

2009-07-30T11:58:00.016+08:00

The harm that worry causes in our lives has been well documented by doctors and other professionals. Worry can weaken and sicken us and make our days unbearable. At the very least it prevents us from living fully and happily the only life that we will ever have. At its worse, it can destroy us. A god, invisible but omnipotent.

It steals the bloom from the cheek and lightness from the pulse it takes away the appetite and turns the hair gray. It does a lot more than that but the worry disease can be cured and it certainly can be reduced.

Of course it requires a change in our thinking how to view and react to situations.

Worrying over things that 'might' happen can waste large portions of our lives considering that so often it is for nothing and almost certainly does no good.

If you can solve your problem then what is the need of worrying. If you cannot solve it then what is the use of worrying. Worrying about things that have happened will not turn back the hands of time to give you another try at doing it right. So that is a waste of time too.

So many of our anxieties and fears are for nothing. Most of the rest can simply be discarded because worrying just isn't going to do any good. So let's spend our time thinking about the good and pleasant things in our lives and move on in a peaceful and contented state of mind.

I think these difficult times have helped me to understand better than before how infinitely rich and beautiful life is in every way and that so many things that one goes around worrying about are of no importance whatsoever.

Through reading and other instruction can help in turning our lives around. A life filled with contentment and lacking stress and worry are the goals to be achieved. Finally, it's never too late to start eliminating worry.

Before It Is Gone Forever

2009-07-29T13:18:00.020+08:00

How the time flies. The days go by and they are years the years finally become our whole life.

Each daily portion can be wasted or it can be a pleasure before it is gone forever. If a bedtime review of the day concludes that we were too stressed, too busy, didn't accomplish anything, didn't have any fun, then it has been another lost piece of precious life.

Perhaps we are putting off our enjoyment until we have more time, money and some other improved condition. The trouble with that is that it might never happen or it may be too long in coming. It's so important to accept this time and this every minute as something of tremendous value that will very soon be gone forever. There are many ways to ensure that we make the best of our time here on earth.

In our daily routine let's include time to enjoy others and thus ourselves. Look and wonder at the trees, fields and mountains, smell the flowers, hear the birds and watch the clouds in the sky.

This world, after all our science is still a miracle, wonderful, magical and more to whosoever will think of it.

Face your problems bravely, confidently, and improve on your situation no matter what state it be in. Be good to feel good. Be active and improve your mind. Laugh, relax, and sleep well. Life is mostly froth and bubble. Two things stand like stone kindness in another's trouble and courage in our own.

The Effects of Cold Water

2009-07-16T19:07:00.018+08:00

The Bad Effects of Cold Water

It is nice to have a cup of cold drink after a meal. However, the cold water will solidify the oily stuff that you have just consumed. It will slow down the digestion. Once this sludge reacts with the acid, it will break down and be absorbed by the intestine faster than the solid food.

It will line the intestine. Soon, this will turn into fats and lead to cancer. It is best to drink hot soup or warm water after a meal. A serious note about heart attacks, we should know that not every heart attack symptom is going to be the left arm hurting. Be aware of intense pain in the jaw line.

You may never have the first chest pain during the course of a heart attack. Nausea and intense sweating are also common symptoms. Most of people who have a heart attack while they are asleep do not wake up. Pain in the jaw can wake you from a sound sleep. Let’s be careful and be aware. The more we know the better chance we could survive.

The Good Effects of Cold Water

Stimulation of the Circulation. As before stated, cold water applied to the surface of the body arouses and stimulates the circulation all over the system. Blood counts before and after a cold water application show a very marked increase in the number of red and white blood corpuscles.

This does not mean that the cold water has in a moment created new blood cells, but it means that the blood has been stirred up and sent hurrying through the system, that the lazy blood cells which were lying inactively in the sluggish and stagnant blood stream and in the clogged and obstructed tissues are aroused to increased activity.

Undoubtedly, the invigorating and stimulating influence of cold sprays, ablutions, sitz baths, barefoot walking in the dewy grass or on wet stones and all other cold water applications depends largely upon their electromagnetic effects upon the system.

Elimination of Impurities, as the cold water drives the blood with increased force through the system, it flushes the capillaries in the tissues and cleanses them from the accumulations of morbid matter and poisons which are one of the primary causes of acute and chronic diseases.

As the blood rushes back to the surface it suffuses the skin, opens and relaxes the pores and the minute blood vessels or capillaries and thus unloads its impurities through the skin.

From Son to Father…

2009-06-12T20:22:00.020+08:00

No man is perfect, however rarely would anyone ever see what few lesser qualities my late father may have had. That is the mark of a true Gentleman, and how most who knew my late father will remember him. My late father was often not a man of many words, and few would ever have had a bad word about my late father.

My late father had a difficult start to life, my late father worked hard all his life, having left school to work at many places with the hope of becoming a somebody for his family. Unfortunately he grew a bit tall for that pursuit, however he never let a lack of education stand in the way of providing for his family. He grew up in some very hard times, and did not like to see things wasted "Might come in handy one day" was something he used to say, and he preferred make do with what he had, rather than buy something new.

My late father was a simple man who appreciated the simple joy's life offered. He reminisced recently about some of the fun times he had with his brother and sisters, in a time when the world was a more peaceful place. Warm, quiet, gentle and patient are some words that come to mind when thinking of my late father. He believed in fairness and wasn't someone to complain about things.

My late father loved his golf, having played for many years. He played his last game several days before going into Malacca General Hospital, so it's safe to say he played his favourite sport as long as he possibly could. At one stage his handicap was as low as 11, and my late father also had the joy of shooting a hole in one during his life. His favourite golf club at Air Keroh Country Club, Malacca.

My late father was a family man, and spent most of his time at home. Words cannot express what he meant to his family, and what his family meant to him. He had a loving wife who cared for him, and that care was exceptional during the last years and months of his life. Only Rohani and Yahaya can fully appreciate the depth of their bond formed over 30 years together.

To his three sons, my late father was an inspiration. No thanks could ever be enough for the countless things he did for Along, Angah & Adik over the years, except to try to be as good a Father. The lessons our Parents teach, without ever knowing it, help make us who we are today.

My late father had the joy of spending time almost every day with my mother, Rohani. It's impossible to express a man's life in these few words, but the gift my late father has given those that knew him throughout those years will live on. The sadness of losing my late father is great, as were the many good times shared with him.

I believe, my late father would wish us to remember those happy times. Finally, maybe when we see my late father favourite golf set, we'll smile to ourself in memory of a wonderful man, who will be deeply missed and fondly remembered.

"I hope that anyone reading this blog will, for a small moment in time, think about what my late father meant to me and know a little about his life".

"I love You Abah". Al-Fatihah.

Warning Signs of Depression

2009-06-11T21:15:00.017+08:00

Signs of depression can be tricky to spot. Friends, family and relatives that's just how they is.

They may not notice the more serious warning signs of depression. Each person is uniquely created by God, so no list of symptoms fits every individual. However, here is a list of symptoms indicating possible depression:

Tiredness:

Despite proper amounts of sleep, a balanced diet,

and plenty of physical exercise,
the person may feel exhausted regularly.

Mood swings:

A person may experience happiness one moment,

and then be sad or irritated the next.

Difficulty coping with life:

The day to day routine of getting up,

going to work, and coming home can seem worthless.

The depressed person may feel as if he or she,

is not important, his or her job does not matter,

life does not matter.

There is a strong sense of hopelessness.

Depression is often triggered by:

Tragedy, the death of a loved one,

a divorce, wrong diet, an exam result, drugs, alcohol, etc.

Attribute of Human Nature

2009-06-05T18:39:00.012+08:00

Depression can be mysterious,

because they can often get confused,

with general attributes of human nature.

Symptoms of depression include,

behavior that is out of balance,

or characteristics that are not within the range,

of what is considered normal for that individual.

These signs are recognized by professionals,

but there are many other indications that often,

go unrecognized and untreated.

If you have any doubt,

or concern regarding depression symptoms,

please see someone immediately for proper diagnosis.

There may be a chemical imbalance,

that requires treatment.

The Purpose of Life

2009-06-02T09:55:00.020+08:00

Life challenges enable us to see ourselves at our best and our worst. We may attempt to temporarily escape our circumstances. Others find themselves overwhelmed careening out of control even contemplating how to commit suicide.

In time we found a way to guard our heart and mind. We discovered peace and joy by using words to bring hope and healing to others not as verbal weapons. We face our greatest life challenges. When we struggle to find love, security, and assurance that life truly has meaning.

Our fears, unhealthy behaviors and excessive emotional struggles result from our inability to interpret and correctly cope with our circumstances and feelings.

Whether wrestling with chronic pain, forgiving infidelity, or trying to conceive it is possible to move beyond that place of hopelessness. When we develop a personal relationship with the One who created us we discover how God wants us to respond in any given situation.

If you are facing difficult decision trust Him to provide the comfort, strength, and wisdom you need in order to continue toward your goal. By placing our faith in God, we take our hands off our problems.

Life Challenges

2009-06-01T00:58:00.013+08:00

All of us experience major,

and minor life challenges.

How we handle these struggles,

on a daily basis determines our physical,

as well as our mental well being.

It takes only a single event to convince us,

we have no control over our circumstances.

Sometimes these challenges consume us with guilt,

panic attacks or chronic fatigue.

Our problems pressure us from every side,

threatening to crush or break us.
Surprisingly, all life challenges have a direct relationship,

in defining our purpose in life.

If only we could find assurance that there was a plan,

or reason for the difficulties we face.

We search for meaning in tragedy,

questioning our reason for hope or a future.

New Beginning of Life

2009-05-31T14:10:00.018+08:00

Dedicated To:

Noriah Binti Hj. Shahid Ali

Faizul Amir Bin Ahmad Sabar

Sunday, May 31, 2009

Klang, Selangor Darul Ehsan, Malaysia.

Firstly, I just want to tell Noriah, how honoured I am today, to says something on her special day. The sum which two married people owe to one another defies calculation.

It is an infinite debt which can only be discharged through all eternity.

Marriage is ever made by destiny. Two human loves make one divine. A happy marriage is a new beginning of life a new starting point for happiness and usefulness. Marriage is the perfection of what love aimed at ignorant of what it sought. When you make a sacrifice in marriage you're sacrificing not to each other, but to unity in a relationship.

One should believe in marriage as in the immortality of the soul. Marriage is about two souls but with a single thought and two heart but beat as one.

Over the blog:

I’m sorry my dear friend, I couldn't be there on your wedding day, but I really feel so happy for you. Here I wishing you, all the best of health, happiness and prosperity for your married.

Finally, to keep your marriage brimming with love in the wedding cup, whenever you're wrong please admit it but whenever you're right please shut up.

"Happy Married Life"

Decision Making

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Decision making based only on human nature frequently produces serious consequences. When our selfish impulses influence choices disaster soon follows. When we exclude God from our decision making we intentionally ignore God’s instructions. We all make costly mistakes decisions that we wish we never made.

One of the most difficult factors in decision making is humbling ourself admitting that you don’t know it all or that you’ve failed. Some people struggles with decision making. The decision of our next car, a potential career change, or a commitment to a long term relationship. If only our decisions were risk free guaranteeing us the best desired outcome.

Decision making forces us to:
Accept responsibility for the success or failure of our choice. Experience first hand how that decision helps or harms others. Identify the most reliable source of wisdom that equips us for making those decisions.

The Beauty of People

2009-04-30T02:38:00.000+08:00

When dealing with difficult people,

it is helpful to know what drives them.

A difficult person falls into three basic categories:

One who drains others :
By nature, their depressing,

and negative attitude characterizes them as “life suckers.”

They frequently aggravate and deplete us.

They complain, but refuse to accept solutions,

or take steps to improve their circumstances.

One who disrespects others :

Through their constant criticism,

we find ourselves consistently on the defense.

Their blunt, even cruel remarks,

frequently leave scars that linger as abuse.

They may be unsympathetic,

and practice excessive rudeness,

and ridicule at our expense.

One who dominates others :

Any aggressive nature which dominates,

our workplace or home through intimidation is destructive.

Boldness and assertiveness give way to a meanness,

that ignores the harmful consequences.

The dominating person believes “might is right.”

Challenging Moments

2009-03-29T11:02:00.000+08:00

What is the secret for dealing with difficult people?

It may be a family member, co-worker,

or salesperson that causes our frustration.

Personalities collide, tempers flair,

and we say and do things that we later regret.

There are some steps we can take,

that will not only guard us against further stress,

but help us establish a healthy attitude,

during those challenging moments.
Difficult people cultivate anxiety,

resentment, or feelings of inadequacy.

At times, a brief encounter with that,

disruptive individual ruins our entire day.

Any long term relationships,

with difficult people create tension,

that mounts with each passing day.

Regardless of the length of the confrontation,

we often find ourselves feeling miserable.

One Moment

2009-02-14T20:04:00.000+08:00

The Moment you are in Tension,

you will lose your Attention,
then you are in total Confusion,
and you will feel Irritation.

Then you will spoil personal Relation,
ultimately, you won't get Cooperation,
then you will make things Complication,
then your blood pressure may raise Caution.

And you may have to take Medication

Instead, understand the Situation
And try to think about the Solution
Many problems will be solved by Discussion.

This will work out better in your Profession,

don't think it's my free Suggestion,
it's only for your Prevention,
if you understand my Intention.

Hopefully, you will never come again to Tension.

True Meaning of Life

2009-02-12T14:03:00.000+08:00

Love starts with a smile, grows with a kiss,

and ends with a tear.
Don't cry over anyone who won't cry over you.
Good friends are hard to find, harder to leave,

and impossible to forget.

The hardest thing to do is watch the one you love,

love somebody else.
Don't let the past hold you back,

you're missing the good stuff.
Life's short. If you don't look around once in a while,

you might miss it.

A best friend is like a four leaf clover,

hard to find and lucky to have.
If you think that the world means nothing, think again.

You might mean the world to someone else.
When it hurts to look back, and you're scared to look ahead,

you can look beside you and your best friend will be there.

True friendship never ends.
Some friends are forever.
Good friends are like stars, you don't always see them,

but you know they are always there.
Don't frown, you never know

who is falling in love with your smile.

What do you do when the only person who can make you stop crying,

is the person who made you cry?
Nobody is perfect until you fall in love with someone,

Isn't that the truth?

Everything is okay in the end.

If it's not okay, then it's not the end.

I've Learned

2009-01-18T12:43:00.027+08:00

I've learned that we don't have to change friends,

if we understand that friends change.

I've learned that no matter how good a friend is,

they're going to hurt you every once in a while,

and you must forgive them for that.

I've learned that true friendship continues to grow,

even over the longest distance.

I've learned that it's taking me a long time,

to become the person I want to be.

I've learned that you should always,

leave loved ones with loving words.
It may be the last time you see them.

I've learned that sometimes the people,

you expect to kick you when you're down,

will be the ones to help you get back up.

I've learned that sometimes when,

I'm angry I have the right to be angry,

but that doesn't give me the right to be cruel.

I've learned that maturity has more to do,

with what types of experiences you've had,

and what you've learned from them,

and less to do with how many years you have lived.

I've learned that it isn't always,

enough to be forgiven by others.

Sometimes you have to learn to forgive yourself.
I've learned that no matter how bad your heart is broken,

the world doesn't stop for your grief.

I've learned that our background and circumstances,

may have influenced who we are,

but we are responsible for who we become.

I've learned that just because two people argue,

it doesn't mean they don't love each other,

and just because they don't argue,

it doesn't mean they do love each other.

I've learned that two people,

can look at the same thing,

and see something totally different.

I've learned that your life can be,

changed in a matter of hours,

by people who don't even know you.

I've learned that even when,

you think you have no more to give,

when a friend cries out to you,

you will find the strength to help.

I've learned that the people you care about most in life,

are sometimes taken from you too soon.

What Made Us Blind?

2009-01-05T17:23:00.025+08:00

Too often we don't realize,

what we have until it is gone,

too often we wait too late to say,

I'm sorry and I was wrong.

Sometimes it seems we hurt the ones,

we hold dearest to our hearts,

and we allow foolish things,

to tear our lives apart.

Far too many times we let,

unimportant things into our minds,

and then it's usually too late,

to see what made us blind.

So be sure that you let people know,

how much they mean to you,

take that time to say the words,

before your time is through.

Be sure that you appreciate,

everything you've got,

and be thankful for the little things,

in life that mean a lot.

The Lamp of Love

2009-01-04T10:58:00.042+08:00

Dedicated To:
Ismimuhamad Bin Hj. Idris

Rosfadilah Binti Zainal Abidin

Saturday, January 3, 2009

Durian Tunggal, Melaka, Malaysia.

Happy marriages begin when we marry the one we love,

and they blossom when we love the one we married.
My greatest wish for the two of you is that through the years,

your love for each other will so deepen and grow,

that years from now you will look back on this day,

your wedding day.

As the day you loved each other the least.
It doesn’t matter where you get your appetite,

as long as you eat at home.
May the best day of your past be the worst day of your future.
Marriage, a community consisting of a master, a mistress,

and two slaves making in all, two.
May the roof above you never fall in,

and may you both never fall out.
To the lamp of love may it burn brightest in the darkest hours.

And never flicker in the winds of trial.
May for better or worse be far better than worse.
The man or woman you really love will never grow old to you.

Through the wrinkles of time,

through the bowed frame of years.

You will always see the dear face and feel.

The warm heart union of your eternal love.
May you have many children,

and may they grow mature in taste and healthy in color.

"Happy Married Life"

Happy New Year 2009

2009-01-01T13:12:00.030+08:00

Dedicated To:

My Family (Mom, Along, Adik & Jaja)

All My Friends & Blog Visitors

First of all a very Happy New Year to my visitors, and everyone else out there in Malaysia. Last year has been a great one for our nation. Our nation's goal of full sovereignty will be furthered through such means as this massage.

This coming year then, let us look forward to a brighter world. Let us hope for peace, prosperity and security to return to our giant neighbor nation and to the world in these troubled times. Let us hope for peace, prosperity and a bright future for all mankind, and for a peaceful coexistence with this planet we call home.

Let seek ever to expand Malaysia's role in both the world of small nations and the world of large nations. We all have much to contribute to each other. Let us continue to explore the heavens and the earth around us, for knowledge is indeed power. As always, let us continue to strive, to grow, to explore, to live and to learn.

And so, these things said, let us move forward. Every year is a new beginning for Malaysia, and every year brings new opportunities. Malaysia is among the greatest of the small nations of the world, a beacon to those that seek self-government and sovereignty. We never hesitate to lead, and to set the example.

For almost fifty two years, now Malaysia has grown and prospered. This pace continues unabated, and will continue for many long years.In this coming year, then, I speak to all Malaysians and wish to you all the best. I pledge to continue to give and share with you

as best as I can.

I am not the nation, we all are. And together we shall continue to build toward a great future for all Malaysians.

We Need Someone

2008-12-24T18:08:00.031+08:00

I prayed for you before we met,

not knowing who you'd be,

I asked the Lord to send a friend.

One chosen just for me,

I asked that they'd be Godly,

with wisdom of His ways.

A friend to help and guide me,

I the troubles of these days,

so often in life, we need someone.

To listen while we talk,

someone who will not condemn or judge,

but encourage us as we walk.

The narrow road we choose to follow,

may sometimes make us stumble,

but to have a friend to catch our fall.

Teaches us to be humble,

when I asked the Lord to send a friend,

though many came and went.

He gave much more than I ever asked,

and you are the friend He sent.

Congratulations

2008-12-16T14:32:00.032+08:00

Dedicated To:

Halim Bin Ibrahim

Khairunnisa Binti Budin

Sunday, December 14, 2008

Melaka, Malaysia.

I want to start off by saying congratulations to Halim and Khairunnisa. For those of you who don’t know me, I am Halim’s cousin. And I have the honour of being part of his beautiful day. I’d also like to congratulate Halim on a truly magnificent day.

I have known Halim all my life, he has always loved sport. I would like to say best of luck to the two of you, I really am absolutely delighted for both of you. I hope you have a long and happy future together.

And thank you Halim, it really has been a great honour to be your best cousin, you are more than a cousin to me. So Halim and Khairunnisa you’ve finally got married. I know that you both have been planning incessantly for the past few months to have this day be everything that you have both been dreaming of, and everything is just beautiful.

Everything I've seen and heard of the two of you just seems right. You two seem to have found what we are all looking for from marriage. You serve as an inspiration to everyone, because you have shown that dreams really do come true.

So, congratulations again! I hope you enjoy the rest of your celebration today as well as the rest of your lives together!

“Happy Married Life”

True Love

2008-12-16T13:34:00.030+08:00

Dedicated To:

Hafizah Binti Kiprawi

Mohd Aiman Bin Abdullah

Sunday, December 14, 2008

Bintulu, Sarawak, Malaysia.

I just want to tell Fizah how honoured I am today to says something on your special day.On behalf of my family and myself I just want to say how beautiful and radiant your look today, it truly has been a special day for you.

Fizah and I have been friends for a number of years now. Over the years, she has taught me the valuable lesson that friendship is the most important thing next to family. We have supported each other through good times and bad.

I have many memories of wonderful times spent with Fizah via email,phone & sms. The fondest memory I will now have knows Fizah will get married, the love of her life and companion.

Today you celebrate everything you have found in each other - A best friend, a supporter and a true partner for like.

“Happy Married Life”

Happy Hari Raya Aidiladha

2008-12-08T09:09:00.020+08:00

Dedicated To:
My Family (Mom, Along, Adik & Jaja)
All My Friends & Blog Visitors

Today all muslims all over the world celebrates Hari Raya Aidiladha. Aidiladha is also commonly known as Hari Raya Korban or Hari Raya Haji in Malaysia.Hari Raya Aidiladha or the Festival of Sacrifice is a religious festival celebrated by Muslims worldwide in commemoration of the willingness of Prophet Ibrahim to sacrifice his son as an act of obedience to Allah.

The devil tempted Prophet Ibrahim by saying he should disobey Allah and spare his son. As Prophet Ibrahim was about to sacrifice his son, Allah intervened and instead provided a lamb as the sacrifice.

This is why today all over the world Muslims who have the means to, sacrifice an animal such as a cows, as a reminder of Prophet Ibrahim's obedience to Allah. All over the world, during Aidiladha, the sacrifice of four legged animals such as lambs, goats, cows, bulls and camels is performed.The meat is then shared out with family, friends, as well as the poor members of the community.

"Wish You Happy Hari Raya Aidiladha"

Keep Up The Good Work

2008-12-04T00:58:00.023+08:00

Dedicated To:

Julimasniza Binti Ali

Saturday, November 22, 2008

Putrajaya, Malaysia.

It makes me proud to be able to offer my congratulations on your graduation. I know how long and hard you have worked and studied. But, your dedication and perseverance has paid off, and you should be very proud of your accomplishment.

Now that you have graduated. There are many options and doors open to you that were previously unattainable. You set your goal and now have achieved it in your graduation. Remember the quote by Benjamin Mays, "The tragedy of life doesn't lie in not reaching your goal. The tragedy lies in having no goals to reach."

Remember one of the keys to success is goal setting. Keep setting your goals and you can achieve what you now only dream of. I wish you all the best in pursuing a new career in your chosen field.

Well Done!!!

Happily Ever After

2008-12-03T19:34:00.027+08:00

Dedicated To:

Noor Aimilia Binti Amershah

Zulkhairol Bin Haron

Saturday, November 22, 2008

Kulim, Kedah Darul Aman, Malaysia.

Wedding is one of the most important and precious moment in one's life. We often bumble when giving out best wishes for weddings due to lack of words and phrases. Wishing you all the health and happiness in this world on your wedding. Wishing you the best of life today and in the days to come.

Heart filled wishes on your wedding and hoping the best for you from today and forever. May Allah grant you a happy married life. Hopefully, you love and hold each other in the worst of times with trust, faith and belief. Hoping the best for you on your auspicious wedding. I pray and wish happiness for both of you.

As a friend, I am very sure that he is gonna keep you smiling, happy and cheerful all your life. Happy married life to you. I wish you all the happiness in this world.

Over the blog: I’m sorry my dear friend, I couldn't be there on your wedding day, but I really feel so happy for you. Here I wishing you, all the best of health, happiness and prosperity for your married. Happy married life to you guys and please don't fight! I hope you hold each other close in best or bad times and have trust and faith all the way.

"Happy Married Life"

Always Remember To Forget

2008-12-02T11:52:00.020+08:00

Always remember to forget,

The things that made you sad.

But never forget to remember,

the things that made you glad.

Always remember to forget,

the friends that proved untrue.

But don't forget to remember,

those that have stuck by you.

Always remember to forget,

the troubles that have passed away.

But never forget to remember,

the blessings that come each day.

You're Not Alone

2008-12-02T11:45:00.021+08:00

I cannot ease your aching heart,

nor take your pain away.

But let me stay and take your hand,

and walk with you today.

I'll listen when you need to talk,

I'll wipe away your tears.

I'll share your worries when they come,

I'll help you face your fears.

I'm here and I will stand by you,

on each hill you have to climb.

So take my hand, let's face the world,

and live just one day at a time.

You're not alone,

because I'm still here.

I'll go that extra mile,

and when your grief is easier.

I'll help you learn to smile.

Forgive Is Essential

2008-11-25T12:48:00.017+08:00

Forgive is essential,

There is a tendency in all of us to hold ourselves,

More accountable than we do others,

Perhaps you have been one who can justify forgiving others,

Even for a heinous offense,

Yet you find no justification for forgiving yourself,

For an equal or lesser offense,

Perhaps you believe that forgiving yourself,

Is not even a consideration,

Because you think you must hold yourself,

In a state of constant remembrance,

Lest you forget,

Perhaps you believe there is a price,

Some form of life long penance that you must pay.

Today, Tommorow & Forever

2008-11-15T08:36:00.000+08:00

You may not have ever seen me,

but you know that I am here.

You can feel me in your heart,

as you enter each new day.

I will always be there for you,

I am your friend.

Someone to share the good times,

as well as the bad.

I make no judgments by what you say,

I just listen with my heart.

Hope to be of help in anyway I can,

I will be there for you.

Today, tomorrow and forever,

always please remember.

I am your friend.

Who Am I?

2008-11-13T08:45:00.015+08:00

My life is different but good,

I didn't think it ever would.

I had a life before where,

I was locked away.

I seem to miss each passing day,

where everyday was always not the same.

I only have my self to blame,

I should have made a stand years ago.

Then I wouldn't have felt so low,

so here I am with my mother and friends.

All the good times it sends,

I may have suffered for all those years.

But now I have to stand up to my fears,

I have all the love here I ever need.

All that has grown a new seed,

to make the best of my life.

To take away the trouble and strife,

to wake up each day to do something new.

To be myself again and always be true.

I Found A Friend

2008-11-12T13:43:00.019+08:00

I found a friend,

who knew everything I felt.

She knew my every weakness,

and the problems I've been dealt.

She understood my wonders,

and listened to my dreams.

She listened to how,

I felt about life and love.

And knew what it all means,

not once did she interrupt me.

Or tell me I was wrong,

they understood what I was going through.

And promised she'd stay long,

I reached out to this friend.

To show her that i care,

to pull her close and let her know.

How much I need her there,

I went to hold her hand.

To pull her a bit nearer,

and realized that this perfect friend.

Forgiving Others

2008-11-11T09:52:00.014+08:00

Forgiving others may seem to be a choice,

and in one sense it is a choice.

Forgiving others releases us from anger,

and allows us to receive the healing we need.

Forgiving others spares us from the consequences,

of living out of an unforgiving heart.

Forgiving others does not carry with it,

a single decision that we need to ponder.

Forgiving others often takes time.

Forgiving others often starts as a decision,

of surrender an act of our will.

We simply need to make the choice,

to be open to forgiveness and reconciliation.

Remember, forgiveness does not,

justify the deed or the person.

It does not provide God's forgiveness for their actions,

because only God can do that.

While nothing can undo the past,

we can do something about the condition,

of our own present and future.

Forgiving others makes a way for our own healing to begin.

Search For Answers

2008-11-09T08:18:00.015+08:00

I can't give solutions to all of life's problems,

doubts, or fears,

but I can listen to you.

And together we will search for answers,

I can't change your past,

with all it's heartache and pain.

Nor the future with its untold stories,

but I can be there now,

when you need me to care.

I can't keep your feet from stumbling,

I can only offer my hand,

that you may grasp it and not fall.

Your joys, triumphs, successes,

and happiness are not mine,

yet I can share in your laughter.

Your decisions in life are,

not mine to make and nor to judge,

I can only support you, encourage you.

And help you when you ask,

I can't prevent you from,

falling away from friendship.

From your values and from me,

I can only pray for you,

talk to you and wait for you.

I can't give you boundaries which,

I have determined for you,

but I can give you the room to change.

Room to grow and room to be yourself,

I can't keep your heart from breaking and hurting,

but I can cry with you and help you pick up.

The pieces and put them back in place,

I can't tell you who you are,

I can only love you and be your friend.

The Nature of Friendship

2008-11-08T20:19:00.014+08:00

It takes more than caring,

To be a real friend,

The nature of friendship,

Requires a blend Of warmest compassion,

And love deep and true,

To reach and to comfort,

The way that you do,

Because I can see,

That your kind of friendship,

Is priceless to me.

The Moments

2008-11-08T15:12:00.015+08:00

You are my friend and that is true,

but the gift was given from me to you.

We went thru moments,

that were good and bad.

Even moments that were happy and sad,
you suported me when i was in tears.

We stuck together when we were in fear,

its really sad that it had to be this way.

But it has reached its very last day,

miles away cant keep us apart.

Cause you'll always be in my heart.

Relationship, Trust & Accountability

2008-11-08T09:28:00.016+08:00

True friendship involves relationship. Those mutual attributes we mentioned above become the foundation in which recognition transpires into relationship. Many people say, "Oh, she's a good friend of mine," yet they never take time to spend time with that good friend.

Friendship takes time, time to get to know each other, time to build shared memories, time to invest in each other's growth. Trust is essential to true friendship. We all need someone with whom we can share our lives, thoughts, feelings, and frustrations.

We need to be able to share our deepest secrets with someone, without worrying that those secrets will end up on the Internet the next day. Failing to be trustworthy with those intimate secrets can destroy a friendship in a hurry.

Faithfulness and loyalty are key to true friendship. Without them, we often feel betrayed, left out and lonely. In true friendship, there is no backbiting, no negative thoughts, no turning away. True friendship requires certain accountability factors.

Real friends encourage one another and forgive one another where there has been an offense. Genuine friendship supports during times of struggle. Friends are dependable. In true friendship, unconditional love develops. We love our friends no matter what and we always want the best for our friends.

The Philosophy of Friendship

2008-11-08T09:19:00.011+08:00

Signs include a mutual desire for companionship,

and perhaps a common bond of some kind.

Beyond that, genuine friendship involves,

a shared sense of caring and concern.

A desire to see one another grow and develop,

a hope for each other to succeed in all aspects of life.

True friendship involves action,

doing something for someone else.

While expecting nothing in return,

sharing thoughts and feelings without.

Fear of judgment or negative criticism.

Tribute To My Father

2008-11-08T01:34:00.029+08:00

This was my first speech for my late Father.

My Father served the government for almost 20 years and Pantai Medivest Sdn Bhd for almost 10 years. He was everyone’s favorite friend & neighbour. Everybody calls him,
"Abang Tapah or Pak Yah"

My Father died, July 30, 2007. I am not very accustomed in making speeches & not very vocal about my emotions. But this time, I really want to express my feelings and talk about my Father.

If there are far more greater words to describe how my Father was then let me use it. But there’s really no need for words, because my Father’s life spoke loud and clear enough. What tribute can you pay a man whose whole life was a tribute. I don’t think there was anyone who knew him that didn’t like him. He was a good man, I was lucky to have him as my father.

When I was a kid, I used to see him wearing his uniform while carrying me in his arm… fetching me from school, because it is flooded and it made me feel very proud.

Another vivid memory of him was, when I went through the stage of being failed an exam, I was crying miserably. I stayed in my room all day. He came up to me, sat beside my bed and gave me comfort and advised me to let go & move on.

Not that my Father was perfect, But in my life, I never felt for a moment that he wasn’t there for me. He always supports me with my plans, Unfortunately he will not be physically present , to see my dreams being fulfilled.

I wouldn’t be able to see his face light up & would pat me on my head and say, "very good son, but don’t forget to thank the Allah for all His blessings". My father always made me strong to accept trials & sufferings in my life…
But his sudden loss made me realize that I am vulnerable, for this is the most painful & saddest thing that ever happened to me. But I know that my Father wouldn’t want me to see grieving...

I am going to miss him…

I love you "Abah", I will miss you, But will never forget who you are & will always talk about you and tell your grand children about their grandpa who always tried to give somethings in his life.

And to you "Abah"…

As a Father… Mission Accomplished

As a Golfer ... Hole In One

As a Retired Person
(Government and Pantai Medivest Sdn Bhd)

… Now go and be with Allah and Be in peace…

I Love you "Abah"… Al- Fatihah

How will smoking kill you?

2008-11-07T22:28:00.010+08:00

For roughly half of adult smokers it isn't a question of if smoking will kill them but how. Ask any smoker what smoking’s greatest killer is and they’ll likely tell you it’s lung cancer. They’re wrong. The correct response would have been circulatory or cardiovascular disease.

A smoker’s incorrect response to this basic question is understandable. Early on most sensed smoking’s impact upon their lungs. Even as teens they knew it was depriving them of a degree of endurance, stamina and normal lung function.

They could hear the panting while trying to keep pace with other teens. Eventually the sounds of a morning cough or wheeze arrive. But smoking induced circulatory disease is a silent killer.

Smokers need to imagine damage to normal blood flow being substantially worse than any damage they sense happening within their lungs. According to the Ministry Of Health Malaysia, lung cancer is responsible for 28% of smoking related deaths while 43% are attributable to cardiovascular disease - primarily heart disease and strokes.

It's easy to appreciate that the 43 cancer causing chemicals in each and every puff are slowly building an internal time bomb. What few comprehend is that before the bomb has time to go off that it’s far more likely that smoking will cause some portion of their body’s blood piping to completely clog, with downstream oxygen deprived tissues suffocating and dying.

But how?
Nicotine’s ability to dock at millions of acetylcholine receptor sites grant it control over the flow of a host of neurochemicals including those associated with preparing the body for fight or flight, our built-in stress response.

Imagine encountering a sabertooth tiger and having to either flee or fight in order to survive. The stresses would cause these amazing bodies to release a host of chemicals and hormones. They’d trigger an increase in our rate of breathing so that our body could immediately begin taking in more oxygen.

Our heart rate would climb so that a greater volume of oxygen rich blood could be pumped from our lungs to our muscles and brain. Our blood pressure would increase. Extremity and skin surface blood vessels would constrict so as to diminish the risk of bleeding to death if cut while fighting or fleeing the tiger. Our fingers and toes would grow noticeably colder.

Our hearing would perk and our pupils would dilate. Our body would be force-fed an instant supply of energy as the liver released glucose elevating blood sugars, and stored fats were pumped into our bloodstream fats intended to be burned while fighting or fleeing the sabertooth tiger.

Bodily functions not needed during fight or flight would be shut down in order to redirect blood flow to muscle tissues. Nonessential functions such as digestion would stop. The liver would suspend bad cholesterol clean-up, while stored cholesterol would be released helping thicken our blood and aid in clotting if wounded during fight or flight.

That’s how the body’s defenses were designed to respond. But instead of a sabertooth tiger imagine the natural insecticide and teratogen nicotine being able to trigger the body’s fight or flight responses. Visualize it happening puff after puff, cigarette after cigarette, pack after pack, year after year.

Picture nicotine’s control over fight or flight occurring at the exact same time as the smoker is inhaling large quantities of highly toxic carbon monoxide. Inside our lungs carbon monoxide binds to hemoglobin (the oxygen carrying portion of red blood cells) with an affinity 200-250 times greater than that of oxygen.

Not only does an arriving carbon monoxide molecule have a 200 times greater chance than an oxygen molecule of entering the bloodstream, two to four hours after inhaling a large puff of carbon monoxide half is still circulating.

It not only robs the body of life-giving oxygen but its toxic properties act as a Brillo pad in grinding away the smooth delicate endothelium lining of blood vessel walls. Like eggs that begin sticking to a worn Teflon frying pan, extra fight or flight fats begin sticking, accumulating, building and hardening.

Picture the inside of once smooth coronary arteries whose job it was to feed our heart muscle oxygen instead gradually becoming narrower and narrower as they slowly fill with fight or flight fats and cholesterols. Picture the same process occurring in blood pathways to the brain.

Eventually it happens. Complete blockage occurs. All downstream tissues serviced with oxygen by the blood vessel immediately begin to suffocate and die. By far the most common site of smoker circulatory
tissue death is the heart muscle (a heart attack) followed by the brain (a stroke).

The smoker’s senseless self destruction need not continue. Nicotine is simply a chemical with an I.Q. of zero. Knowledge truly is power. The smoker’s greatest weapon is and always has been their vastly superior intelligence but only if put to work.

Who Is A True Friend?

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We all have friends. A lot gets talked about friendships. Everyone wants a true friend, and many of us believe that we have a friend who can be called a true friend. What kind of relations do friends share? When can we call a friend a true friend, and when can our friends take us as their true friend. After a romantic relationship, friendships are the most important relationships we can have.

Though all of us have family and distant family, most of us rely on friends for advice, comfort and inspiration. How do we define a relation that can be called as one of true friendship? The very first sign of a very good friend, not necessarily a true friend is that we are not worried about courtesies. You will call your friend at any hour and talk without any thought of time in your mind. Similarly, whenever you need support, you will call a very good friend and ask him/her to help you out.

They expect the same from you. Another important trait of such relations is that we are not much worried about exposing ourselves. We speak about everything in our mind without worrying about what our friends will think. We are sure that they will take our talk in the spirit it was made.

We are unguarded and open with friends in our talk.A true friend is a little more than a very good friend. A true friend will support you even if it hurts his/her own interest. A true friend will understand your motives and needs and will be with you without any analysis or criticism.

A true friend will come forward to help without any request and be with us in need without showing it or expecting anything in return. With a true friend, you can be sure that you will get help to the extent possible by him/her. Nothing will remain unturned. A mother is a true friend of her children.

If we share such relations with an adult we can say that we are true friends. A true friend makes no excuses of having work or appointments or anything but will be with you whenever you need him/her. In your hour of desperation, a true friend will support you even if the whole world opposes you. A true friend is not an opportunist. A true friend means to have someone who is like mother, as I said earlier.

Instead of having hundreds of good friends, if you have a true friend, treat yourself lucky. If you can also become a true friend of someone, you will be blessed, because it is much easier for all of us to expect but very difficult to give. Be a true friend yourself first.

True Friend

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True Friend when I think of you,

I think of all that we've been through.

All the times we argue and fight,

I know deep inside that it isn't right.

I then feel bad and a lot of pain,

it feels like I've fallen from the sky like the rain.

I love you dear friend with all of my heart,

but now that you're gone I've fallen apart.

I'm getting better as the days go by,

I wish sometimes this was all a big lie.

I pray to you every night,

It's like you're my fire, a burning light.

My dear friend, I miss you a lot,

I still wonder why you were put in that spot.

I know you're in a place much better than here,

watching and helping me with all of my fear.

Our friendship my dear friend,

we will have to the end.

Friends til the end is what we will be,

someday we'll be together.

Together you and me.

A Friend

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A friend is like a flower,
a rose to be exact.

Or maybe like a brand new gate,

that never comes unlatched.

A friend is like an ow,l

both beautiful and wise.

Or perhaps a friend is like a ghost.

Whose spirit never dies,

a friend is like a heart that.

Goes strong until the end,

Where would we be in this world.

If we didn't have a friend.